This woman was somebody my parents trusted for years to do financial things for them. Before my dad died, he made her and her husband promise that my mom would never be put into a nursing home. Somehow she became POA, and I didn’t dispute it at the time, since I live so far away (Florida) and figured it would be easier to have the POA in the same town as my mom. Several years later, this woman moved to a different state. However, she still maintains control. At some point, the POA called mom’s live-in caregiver (we’ll call her G) and asked her how she’d feel if my mom were put into a nursing home. G strongly objected. Months later, this POA flew down and said it had all been arranged, and it was just “temporary”. This was mid January, and it was supposedly just for a month to give G a break, but she is still there!

How should I handle this?

I’m being contacted by a private investigator who was hired by a law firm. He is threatening to have the law firm subpoena me if I don’t speak with him. He is contacting me in regards to an accusation against my elderly parent who I’m partially estranged from. Should I confront my parent about these accusations and alert my parent to the fact that I’m being roped into this? I don’t know anything about this matter and my parent hasn’t mentioned this to me at all. Specifically, I’m asking if I should have contact with my parent prior to me being subpoenaed?

Applying for Medicaid for long-term nursing home care for my mother. In August 2021, she lent $8000 to one of her family members. It was never paid back. Is that amount of money a problem with Medicaid’s Look-Back rule? Would it have any impact on Medicaid eligibility? Can it be paid back now or is that not a good idea? Also, a Family Trust was set up in 2017. Does that affect any of this?